I met Hazel Seet when we were in the same secondary class in Secondary 1, back in 1996. Nothing really developed until we were in Secondary 3. Our affection for each other grew and since we stayed along the same street, I would wait for her bus to pass by my busstop before boarding the bus she is on just to catch a glimpse of her every morning and share the rest of the journey to school together. Many friends told me that this was just puppy love back then but who would ever expect that this relationship would turn out to be a marathon.
One year after we got attached, I came to CHC and it was here that I learnt that the bible instructs Christians not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. I was determined to have a relationship that was right before the eyes of God. However, I did not want to lose this girl that I had known and had been together for the past 1 year as well. Like Abraham, I was asked to give up my Isaac – my precious. I prayed to God and I told Him that I would want to have both – the relationship as well as God. I was unwilling to give up either. However, I felt convicted that this relationship will not be blessed unless it is right before God. I then sought help from my Cell Group Leader for advice and we gave ourselves 3 months. I will fast and pray for Hazel’s salvation during this 3 months and if she’s still not saved after this 3 months, I will end this relationship and focus on serving God.
These were the most painful 3 months as I longed for her to come to church every weekend. Just when the 3 months was about up, I made a decision that I will give up the relationship as I was worshiping the Lord one night. Just then, it was Easter and Hazel finally decided to come for CHC service at indoor stadium. This happened just after I made a decision to end this relationship and put God first in my life. Hazel not only stayed throughout the Easter service but also responded during the altar call at the end of the service. I was overwhelmed.
Only when one have prayed so hard and fasted so desperately will understand the joy of seeing one’s prayers being answered before your very own eyes. Seeing her walk down the aisle and saying the sinner’s prayer was an image that stayed in my mind even till today. My cell group leader and members shared my joy as well and we all witnessed the power of prayers.
Today, Hazel is serving God full-time as a staff and I am serving as a Cell Group Leader, using my example to encourage and inspire young couples to have a strong, Godly relationship with their would-be life partners.
This relationship that I have with Hazel is one that both of us regard as a divine relationship. When it is so hard to obtain, we naturally cherish each other even more. Who could ever imagine that this puppy love which started in Secondary 3, would turn out to have a fairytale ending. This coming September, after more than 11 years of courtship, we would be exchanging our marriage vows and this Valentine’s day will be the last time we are celebrating as singles. I would like to take this opportunity to declare my love for Hazel once again. Truly let no man separate what God has put together. I love you dear…
Your Husband in 8 months time,