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4 Ways To Win Her Attention

By Aaron Ling May 12, 2009May 12, 2009
By Aaron Ling May 12, 2009May 12, 2009

Women of today are independent emotionally, mentally and financially. So do women really need men?

4 Ways To Win Her Attention

The answer is a resounding “Yes!”, and the reason why is simple. God made woman to be a helper of equal abilities, strength and character to man. And both man and woman need each other to live life to the fullest, to experience emotions that cannot be replaced by material goods, pets or the Internet.

It is indeed challenging to court a lady of today and to win her heart. But fret not: Here, we share with you the “be” attitudes of winning the hand of the fair maiden.

1) Be bold and secure

Women like men who are confident and secure about themselves. There is yet a fine thin line between confidence and boastfulness. Confidence never oversells while boastfulness is an attempt to sell something that is not entirely true. Respecting women for their abilities, while taking an initiative to protect and care for them is a skill many men lack today. So do invest your time in reading good books on relationships, and learn the differences between the thought patterns of man and woman, so you will know how to engage a woman without feeling like you’re walking on thin ice.

2) Be a gentleman and show generosity

Women like men to shower attention on them, especially so if the man is particularly attentive to her needs, likes and dislikes. So be observant. If you see a lady at a party that you are interested in, and you notice that she’s having trouble holding her wine glass and plate at the same time, be a gentleman and offer help. The “Ladies first” rule always works, particularly in every day situations like holding the lift door open and letting the ladies exit first. Such everyday situations sometimes lead you to the right woman.

Generosity leaves a good impression on anyone. Pay for her meal, drinks, and purchases once in a while. Women tend to think that stingy men are less likely to dote on them in future.

3) Be charming and conversational

Unfortunately for men, charm doesn’t come in a potion bottle. Instead, it is an innate ability to hold a decent conversation, maintain good eye contact and send vibes that you are genuinely listening and interested in the other party. Most women like men to take the initiative, to engage them in interesting conversation. While most men have a lasting first impression of how women looks, women often have a lasting first impression of a man who is friendly and who gave good conversation peppered with humor.

4 Ways To Win Her Attention

4) Be sincere

Sincerity is expressed beyond words, gifts and actions. It is a combination of it all and most importantly, it must be genuine. However, take note that you do not want to be “overly” sincere and give the wrong idea to women you have no intention of dating. Most men have a “hunter-prey” mentality. They will only focus on the woman they have identified as “prey” and ignore all other women. Such behavior is uncalled for because if things don’t work out with the “prey” then they switch attention to others, it could earn them a bad name — women talk, and they talk fast. Your reputation as a man is highly valuable. Hence, it is entirely possible to be on friendly terms with others without any ulterior motives. Be friendly but firm if you need to draw the line.

Enjoy the journey…

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